Tuesday, 11 June 2013

Papa Cookies

It was  few weeks after Arwah Hanif passed away when I had the opportunity to meet Dr. Siti Mariah. Sure enough I found myself in a deep conversation with her. We shared about life experieces, and even cried together. The conversation that  we had was only about half an hour but it was truly meaningful, honest and worthwhile. She inspired me and I thought there is no harm trying now.

"Kita diduga dengan pelbagai cara tapi apapun mesti ada hikmah. Dari apa yang saya dengar tentang kisah you ni, saya yakin you boleh, you are educated and I can see that you are very concerned about your kids instead of your ownself. My experiences meeting with single mothers vary. Ada yang ok tapi ada yang fokus kepada diri sendiri, sibuk dengan fesyen terkini dengan gaya yang berlebihan. But I hope you can think and react wisely and this is about the right time for you to seek support from your family and friends. Bukan ambil kesempatan tapi dengan apa yang u ada and your strength, do something and im sure they will support you if they are sincere".

Then I thought this is it. As mentioned in my previous post, my part is done and am now waiting for feedbacks. So why not give it a go. And my girls are also excited about it and they suggested the name Papa Cookies (its all about remembering Arwah Papa).  For our first try it is the Corn flakes homemade Cookies.

Our first week of trying and alhamdulillah we receive orders. Thank you so much to my children for your support and being loyal commenters along with Acik(superb in food testing but yet to order:) and Buji, to Syamin Jannah for the handsome marketing plan, Wee, neighbours, Kak Lina and Suzie, Ms. Leilanie, Ms. Alicia and others. We appreciate your support....Thanks again.

Untuk order yang seterusnya

Monday, 10 June 2013

Patience and Understanding

The processes that I am going through are really new to me. From the day and month of arwah Hanif's demise (July 2012) until today I am still in the midst of tackling one issue to another. Almost a year and along the way I received support, preasures, tests, critics, and positive comments. Accused of being ignorant and not efficient enough to settle things was one of those.Masha Allah, a real challenge! (Sepatutnya cairkan semua aset arwah, bayar hutang kemudian bahagi ikut faraid). One of the comments, simply commenting and not realising this is what Suhaizan has been doing for almost a year till today.

 Sincerely, every single step takes time and tested my patience too. I do not purposely delaying but the procedures and protocoles made me. For months my routines are making telephone calls, visiting Government offices and banks, faxing, sending emails, etc. Therefore, please understand and it is not wise to judge me blindly. It is hard to forget because it hurts but I try to remember it as a good lesson in the future. I am just hamba Allah and am not perfect.

Not only that there are five children to deal with. Hanna's first year of school, Syakira and her PLKN issue and many more. I must thank my friend who assisted us and it was then settled.

By the way to some people who are well experienced and proffesionals, they commented favourably (Kira Zan cepat ya submit dokumen dan dapat settle dengan LA letter, Mahkamah Syariah, EPF  tak sampai setahun, enam bulan lebih dah terima surat perintah mahkamah). Huh, what a relief to hear. A sincere and relevant comments from those who are aware of the processes instead of simply commenting as earlier, right?

I must agree and syukur alhamdulillah compared to those who are still struggling to settle the issue for years, disagreement among siblings, fighting for rights and so on....

To be frank, my  part is done for the time being. Right after the hearing in the land office (several copies of LA letters obtained from them), it is a beginning of another process. Showing proudly the LA to the respective parties and yes I have approached until last week, finally. Puspakom and JPJ done, visit to Inland Revenue done, other Government offices done, and meeting the lawyer done. Nothing else but to wait patiently for the feedbacks and  not waiting blindly instead. Every week I am contacting them for the latest updates. Trust me, I make a pool of new acquaintances along the way...

Please do not get me wrong again. Iam not delaying and denying rights but this is absolutely beyond my control. Hope things can get settled as soon as possible.

The experiences taught me a lot. It is wiser to communicate with the people who appreciate and help sincerely.

Nothing is better than getting redha from Him while going on with life with the children, parents, family and friends healthily and happily. At the same time,In shaa Allah arwah Hanif is always with us. This morning right after she woke up hanna shared her dream, again about arwah. "Ada orang ambil papa bawa balik papa lepas tu kita duduk dengan dia dalam bilik, cium papa, Hakim dengan kak Syakira aje tak ada".........

 Redha, ikhlaskan diri, berusaha, mengenali hati budi setiap insan di sekeliling, lebih berhati-hati dan bergantung sepenuhnya kepada Allah.

"Be patient and understanding. Life is too short to be vengeful and malicious".